The Six Love Supplies (pt. 2)

This is a continuation of our post yesterday on the 6 love supplies. One of my mentors, Paul Martinelli, wrote an addendum to the book Think & Grow Rich. In it he covered three principles that, as he said, were missing from the TAGR text and that you definitely need in your life to be able to have a richer, more meaningful existence.

The three missing chapters are on love, generosity, and forgiveness.

I’ve used this book as the basis for a coaching program with dozens of clients for the past 6 months and I’d like to highlight a few thoughts from one small section in the love chapter. However, at the risk of writing a whole new book, I’ll break it up into two sections, part 1 and part 2.

The 6 love supplies are:

• Being listened to
• Receiving praise and acknowledgment
• Physical touch
• Being support in your goals and dreams
• Keeping agreements

Yesterday we talked about 1-3, today I have a few thoughts about the rest. These final three are often, in my experience, a little more difficult to give and therefore are received less, but not any less important.

BEING SUPPORTED IN YOUR GOALS & DREAMS. Let’s face it, change and growth is hard! It’s sometimes scary and challenging. When you’re trying to do something new it’s helpful to have someone rooting for you and cheering you on. Be the chief encourager in your home and office.

RECEIVING LOVING & SUPPORTIVE FEEDBACK. The emphasis here is on the loving and supportive part! Many people, especially in the virtual world, are liberal with their ‘feedback’, ‘help’, and/or ‘free advice’. Do this inside a loving and trusting relationship only! Focus on compassion and help in moving them toward THEIR goals, not judging and shaming because they don’t follow your advice. Come with a problem you notice AND an idea or two to help AND the support to do that with, or just keep quiet!

KEEPING AGREEMENTS. Do you keep your promises? Trust is essential to a good relationship. If you’re a leader in your home, workplace, or community you absolutely MUST keep your agreements! Count the cost BEFORE you say yes, don’t just say yes, and then try to figure out how you can do that!

So, what if one or more of these love supplies is how YOU feel loved but someone in your life is not capable or willing to share with you in this way? What do you do?

1. Speak up for yourself. If you don’t say something, nothing will change. However, sometimes if you do say something, nothing changes, so then what?
2. If you’re not ‘feeling the love’ from someone in the way you prefer, ask yourself, “Am I loving myself?” Are you supporting your own goals and dreams? Are you allowing your negative self-talk to get in the way or intentionally affirming your awesomeness? Are you keeping promises to yourself?

Just because someone in your life is unwilling or unable does not mean that you have to go without love. Also, make sure you reflect and figure out which way the people in your life prefer love and serve them in that way, EVEN IF it’s not how you prefer.

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Michelle@ GrowBy1.com