"Healthy images don't bruise easily. If you're hurt, check your self-image."

As a leader myself, I’ve struggled with hurt feelings and haters, even people on my team. It’s a natural part of leadership. Not everyone will like you or the decisions you make. So, you need to decide how you’re going to deal with that rather than pretend it doesn’t happen or hope it won’t happen to you.

Many young leaders I talk to jump into their position for some piece of glory, adoration, or perk.

Then they find themselves in a mess. But don’t’ lose hope!

WHEN we’re hurt, it tells us there’s something inside us, our thinking, that we can work on. I have three ‘magic’ questions I ask myself and my coaching clients:

• WHY does this bother me?
• WHAT does this say about me?
• What do I WANT to do wit this?

Whether you have a client/customer yell at you, an employee argue with you, or a friend betray you and talk bad about you, if you use these 3 questions to get to know YOU in the process, you’ll be be...

"Every human being is hypnotized by ideas he has uncritically accepted from others or ideas he has repeated to himself or convinced himself are true." Maltz

“EVERY” means me. You, Your team. Your family members, Every.

I’ve had many conversations with leaders this week about their frustrations with the people they are leading. It all boils down to this quote. We are all hypnotized, meaning we don’t know what we don’t know. And your people are no different!

What do you do if someone you’re influencing isn’t aware of something- they’ve been hypnotized by past or present beliefs?

• Check yourself and see if there’s something you may no be aware of first,
• Recognize that if it’s an awareness issue, you probably won’t be able to change their mind,
• Save your breath! Nobody likes free advice, especially an unaware person, and
• Limit your exposure to their negative attitude as much as possible.

Look, I know this is difficult- I do it every day! AND, it’s the most difficult, simple thin...